Am I in an abusive relationship?
Sometimes it can be difficult to see what is happening in a relationship and you may not always realise it is abuse.
Worried about your relationship?
Arguments can happen in any relationship.
But in a respectful, and equal relationship both partners should be free to express their opinions and make their own decisions.
If you cannot do this, you may be in an abusive relationship.
If you can answer ‘yes’ to any of the questions below, this may determine that you are in an unhealthy relationship.
- Has your partner stopped you, or tried to stop you from seeing families or friends?
- Does your partner pressure you into sexual acts that you do not want to do?
- Are you afraid of your partner?
- Does your partner check up on you, stalk you or harrass you?
- Does your partner critise you, belittle you or make you feel like you are a bad parent?
- Are you afraid of your partner?
- Does your partner control your finances?
- Has your partner deliberately damaged your property or threatened to hurt you?
Please contact us if you are worried
Abuse is not always easy to identify and cannot always be clear to see. The points above are just a few examples of behaviours that perpetrators may display. Domestic abuse can be displayed in a number of other ways. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, it does not matter on your sex, where you live, what job you do or what your religion is. It can happen to anyone at any time.
Remember that the abuse is not your fault. Often the abuse will not start over night, it will happen over a period of time, without you realising. All too often the perpetrator can explain their behaviour away, make you believe it was your fault and promise you that they are sorry and that they will change. There is no excuse for abuse and you are not to blame for what is happening to you.
Please contact us for further advice.
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