I am male and looking for support
One in six men will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime. If you are a male looking for support. we can help.
How we can help you
We understand how difficult it can be if you are a man experiencing domestic abuse or other forms of abuse. You might feel scared, isolated, and confused. You might feel ashamed or afraid to tell anyone about your situation. But you are not alone – there is support available.
Haven Domestic Abuse Service offers free confidential support and advice to male victims of domestic abuse. Our helpline is open Monday-Friday 9am-4.30pm and is operated by trained people who can provide a listening, information and signposting service.
Our Rural Community Hubs offer support and advice either face to face or over the phone, for anyone living in Boston or South Holland. To book an appointment please contact our helpline or email us.
Our Refuge Services are also available to men, and their children. We operate dispersed properties throughout Boston and South Holland that provide safe accommodation. To find out more about our Refuge services please call our helpline.
If you answer yes to one or more of the questions below, you may be in an abusive relationship
- Has your partner stopped you, or tried to stop you from seeing families or friends?
- Does your partner pressure you into sexual acts that you do not want to do?
- Are you afraid of your partner?
- Does your partner check up on you, stalk you or harrass you?
- Does your partner critise you, belittle you or make you feel like you are a bad parent?
- Are you afraid of your partner?
- Does your partner control your finances?
- Has your partner deliberately damaged your property or threatened to hurt you?
Abuse is not always easy to identify and cannot always be clear to see. The points above are just a few examples of behaviours that perpetrators may display. Domestic abuse can be displayed in a number of other ways. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, it does not matter on your sex, where you live, what job you do or what your religion is. It can happen to anyone at any time.
Remember that the abuse is not your fault. Often the abuse will not start over night, it will happen over a period of time, without you realising. All too often the perpetrator can explain their behaviour away, make you believe it was your fault and promise you that they are sorry and that they will change. There is no excuse for abuse and you are not to blame for what is happening to you.
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